But why such a specific request, anon?
Sunset @ The High Line by Abeera Khan
So I had the honor of shooting the engagement party for the president of Kosove’s newphew, Sadik last month. Being a fashion/beauty photographer, I don’t hold so much experience in event photography, so naturally I was pretty hesitant, thinking I’d be a let down, but once I arrived and had a good look around the place, I took into account that I have a strong point in candid shots, it’s what I love to do and what I love to see. There were two other photographers who had attended that evening, and when I spoke to them, they were very keen on capturing ‘professional’ shots. Which is.. what I like to call, ‘commercial’ shots. Tasteless work, I believe. I will never understand why couples would want to look back years later, open up a scrapbook, and find photographs of set up moments.
My approach at event photography is journalistic. My focus is capturing candid and real moments, with just the slightest hint of posed portraiture. Professional photos of your family standing in rows and smiling is not my style.
With all that being said, this was a wonderful opportunity and I can’t wait to be handed many more as such.
For more pictures from this evening, click here.
By the time I’ve finished with you, you won’t know whether you’ve been kissed or cut, whether you were loved or butchered. And either way you probably won’t care, just grateful you came close enough to touch.
Ever since I began photography, It has been a wish of mine to get the chance to photograph someone during autumn. Why? Because it is my favorite season. It is my birth season. As a school trip, a few friends and I had gone to Spain for two weeks, staying in the heart of the city, Madrid: Puerta del Sol. Of course, knowing me, I never put my camera down. I was looking for every opportunity available to me to photograph something. Lucky enough, we had arranged an evening in the biggest park in Madrid (Parque del Retiro) and just then I realized the greatest opportunity of all was sitting in front of me: an autumn shoot. Although every event has its ups and down, the unfortunate thing about this day was that I hardly had time. This was a rushed shoot, all taken within 2 hours of a crisp evening. If it wasn’t for Vanessa’s flexibility and cooperation, I wouldn’t have been successful that evening. I always put my words into action, which is why I am able to share this with you today. So, Autumn portraiture? Check.
Featured in Lost Freedom Magazine! #photographer #magazine #publication (Taken with instagram)
As humans, attaching something or someone to ourselves comes as an automatic characteristic throughout our every day lives. Some people attach easily, others not so much. Every one of us has been hurt by someone else at some point in our lives, or will be hurt sooner or later. We were and will be treated badly, trust was and will be broken, hearts were and will be hurt.
Besides this pain being typical, for some the pain may last for far too long. We relive the pain over and over, and have a hard time letting go.
The thing is, it causes problems. Not letting go of what is consistently making you aggravated and upset will not only leave you morose, but strains and destroys other relationships, leaves us distracted from our work and surroundings, and most importantly, unwilling to open up to new matters and new people. We are snared in a cycle of bitterness and hurt, and miss out on so many other things life has to offer.
As hard as it is to say this, even for me, we need to learn to let go. We need to be able to forgive, so we can move on and be happy.
This is something I learned the hard way - after 3 years of holding onto anger over someone I once cared for much more than anything. I’ve realized I still care for him and there is no benefit in holding a grudge over what he did. What am I gaining? Nothing. What am I losing? Time I could be spending moving on to better affairs and new people instead of clinging onto what doesn’t matter anymore.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean you erase the past, or forget what has happened. No. You can’t do that, you can’t just forget. No one can. It also doesn’t mean the other person will change his or her behavior - you can’t control that. What it means is that you are letting go of the anger and pain, and moving on to a better place.
It’s not easy, I can tell you that. But you can learn to do it, eventually.
The past is the past. Accept that there is nothing you can do to change it. You’ve either said too much or said to little. But it’s in the past. Move on and live with the aftermath of your actions. If you were to go back, you couldn’t do anything differently because that’s who you were and that’s what you knew then. It’s done. let go. But never regret. If it’s good, it’s wonderful. If it’s bad, it’s experience.